How do you get everything done?
Imagine how much sleep I would get if I got everything done? That’s right, none!
As mothers of many we might have the appearance that we have it all together but let me set the record straight… if all my kids have socks and shoes on (even if they don’t match) I call that a win.
My job isn’t to do everything, my job is to teach my kids how to be proficient at cooking, how to come to the Lord with all their needs and desires, how to love like Jesus, how to grocery shop and budget, and how to do basic “chores”.
In our home we call them “responsibilities” because that’s more what they are. We are all responsible for picking up after ourselves. I am totally fine with messes, ask my kids, there has been more than one dirt ball fight in the backyard, even so there is the clean up that needs to be done after, that is the doer of the deeds responsibility.
“All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.”Proverbs 14:23
A couple years back I was teaching the kids how to clean the bathrooms. And I mean actually clean the toilets, in, on and around. The response I received was, “that’s gross!” So I told this quick one, “Yes, well then, maybe you should aim better.” That might seem a bit rude but there comes a point after height and enough practice where it’s just laziness. I am happy to report that after consistency (and I’m sure better aim), I don’t feel the need to apologize whenever we have people stop by that need the restroom. There are only minor things that I have to say, “do that again” to and it is definitely not every time.
Home responsibilities are not limited to household work. We have other responsibilities such as treating others how we want to be treated, showing gratitude when someone is kind, bringing meals to another family, following through on our word, giving respect, watching out for one another and speaking truth in love.
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might…”Ecclesiastes 9:10
I think, it’s essential to train the older children well because then, when your hands get fuller and you have more children or more tasks to do, then they will be your extra set of eyes, ears, and hands. You’ll get to hear things like, “mom, they used the bathroom and didn’t wash their hands!” or “make sure to hold the knife down” and the funny “whoa, whoa, whoa… [silence], that’s not what those are for, you’re going to hurt yourself.”
Like I said, making messes is fine, life is messy! But learning to take responsibility and ownership of the mess is where the character building comes in. Strength and perseverance. And sometimes it’s not your mess (I’m sure we’ve all heard, “but I didn’t do it!”), yet that’s where a servants heart can be nurtured. Even the Lord Jesus was willing to wash feet.
Whatever you do, in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus…”Colossians 3:17
Thank the willing as well as the unwilling helpers. The job might take longer to get done because it takes extra time to show them, but in the end, many hands make light work. And it’s pretty amazing to get the house clean in 30 minutes as oppose to many, many hours on my own.
Oh and did I tell you, I rarely do laundry anymore? Yep! Now that’s what I call #winning
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”Galatians 6:9
Blessings to you mama as you train and raise up your children! Keep it up!